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KateSureIsMyName

I got diagnosed recently as an adult and I can say it has changed my life immeasurably. First of I am on meds and that changed everything for me. I had little to no side effects so I'm one of the lucky ones but the benefits have been extremely noticeable to myself and everyone. In regards to the actual diagnosis it has helped others around me understand why I have come across so weird in the past. It put a name on the strange feelings they got when they saw me being distracted or procrastinating myself into a black hole. I haven't done therapy and I don't think I will simply because I'm pretty good at self assessing. Not sure how the CBT route etc goes but I'm sure others here can give insight. I'm from the UK too and basically my advice in terms of seeking diagnosis is go private. I got seen in 2 weeks and was on meds two days later. And it cost me under £1000 for the diagnosis, meds and a follow up appointment. Less than an iPhone but worth 100x that price in my eyes since starting meds. If you have to go NHS then don't be discouraged by shitty GPs or waiting times. I got laughed out of my GPs office 3 years ago when I walked in with the pre assessment checklist from the WHO. Now I'm keeping on top of my ADHD and flourishing. GPs are painfully under educated on adult ADHD it seems but they're not the ones who diagnose you so stick with it. If you want more info on where I went for diagnosis and what the costs were let me know and I'll send it. If I knew it was that easy I'd have done it years ago. It turned my life around more than I can explain.


Awkwardhuman13

Where did you go private for your diagnosis?


KateSureIsMyName

Psymplicity.com Here are the details if anyone else here needs them: I was so sick of my GP and noone getting it that I just looked for adult ADHD specialists. Their website is ADHD friendly and has all the info but the secretary was super nice and clear. The process was straight forward: - Give details - Fill out tick boxes - 2 for you, 2 for your partner, 2 for someone who knew you as a kid. - Get your pulse and blood pressure measurements (can be done at most pharmacies) I was booked in for an appointment within 2 weeks. Because my blood pressure was fine I only needed a Skype consiltation. £695 for the 2 hour consultation, diagnosis and the first prescription. (If you don't come out with a diagnosis then you pay only half). £225 for my follow up the month after and because the meds were working and my dose was good I didn't need another after that for about 6 months. Can now transfer to GP for NHS priced refills. Meds cost varies. Mine was about £30 per month because I went with instant release but others are higher. That will only be until you transfer to your GP though and then it will go back to standard NHS prices. I hope that is helpful for anyone who is in the situation I was. Feel free to pm me if you have questions about any of it and good luck everyone :)


t0m5k

Can confirm - was diagnosed a month ago via Psymplicity and it was just way, way quicker than the NHS, where I have friends waiting for two years plus


KateSureIsMyName

I'm shocked by how many people this comment has touched honestly. Didn't realise how many people were in the same situation.


t0m5k

I think the pandemic has made things that were perhaps hidden or masked more obvious for many of us. With me, it was because my son was diagnosed then I had an “oh shit… this is my life” moment


Biomicrite

I’m 52, and desperate for a assessment. My daughter has been diagnosed with adult adhd (privately, because the waiting list was so long). Unfortunately, the private practices are now over-run and the first available appointments are October 2022, at least with one private company. This is really frustrating because I’m being made redundant in 8 weeks. My productivity dropped massively over the last few years, I can’t focus and I want an assessment asap. I’ve been like this for my whole life but I can’t go on like this.


KateSureIsMyName

Try Psymplicity and see what they have. Mine was only a month ago and they got me in within 2 weeks and I was on meds 2 days after that so even the prescriptions get sent instantly. I don't know how many Drs they have on team but even their secretaries are quick to respond from my experience. Good luck :)


b0dyr0ck2006

Not so good if you don’t have a spare £1000 sitting about though


Jude01449

This is how it feels to be American and need to see a doc. Lol. The cost is about what you’d pay in the states without insurance. Just in case you were curious. It’ll be the best $1000 you’ll ever spend.


b0dyr0ck2006

It may well be the best money I’ve ever spent but that still doesn’t make it magically appear. Sometimes the only options are the long nhs route


Jude01449

Of course. 💙


gkhamo89

Saving this comment for when I finally get around to doing the doctor thing!


KateSureIsMyName

Write it on a post it note too :P Dont let it get lost in your 299 tabs.


gkhamo89

Lmao it's like you're in my head


Jude01449

Please don’t wait. It could be a positive life changing diagnosis. 💙


MrBigDickPickledRick

Is this only for individuals in the UK though?


DustyLemonTree

Was there any information about if you dont have someone that can fill out forms who knew you as a child? I can't confide in my parents about seeking diagnosis and I have no friends, let alone anyone I knew years ago and I desperately want to be assessed sooner than NHS times


sazzlester

Yes you can manage without it. I was assessed without input from parents or partner because I don't have either. Every time they said "could you get some one who knew you in childhood to fill this in" I was like "nope" and that was that.


DustyLemonTree

Thank you so much for replying, that helps!


Babysittersonacid

Do you have to have the follow up with them, or can you go straight to the NHS with your diagnosis?


KateSureIsMyName

After diagnosis you need to have one follow up a month later to check your meds are ok so they can give you the correct prescription amount. If they are ok then you should be good. But if not then you might need more follow ups. My Dr told me to start on 5mg week one, 10 week 2 and 15 week 3 (if I wanted to go up that is) to get an idea of what worked best for me. Didn't feel like he was trying to drag anything out at all (always my biggest fear when going private for anything). But after that all meds can be filled with the NHS through your GP. Keep in mind though that if you need any adjustments to your meds it will be that Dr you'd need to go back to so anything like that would mean a follow up. I believe you can go to NHS for the follow ups but I'm not sure if they will make you get reassessed so keep that in mind.


Triblessinadesert88

Omg thank you !! I just feel like with all the shit ppl are going through- including GPs- I am just a bit too lame seeking a label now when I’m reasonably functional. I just genuinely feel most of the time that I’m the smartest stupidest person I know and I wish I can at least know I’m not stupid I just happen to have a manageable quirk- that if it is true


Nerscylliac

Does anyone know of a website like simplicity for Australia? I noticed the number to call definitely is not Australian and I'm afraid the charges to call internationally would be astronomical


sazzlester

I didn't have a stunning time with psymplicity. I'm finding it a little hard to verbalise what didn't sit right, but I felt like I just bought a prescription. I didn't feel that I was diagnosed so much as led through the answers I was supposed to give to get to the diagnosis, which in turn has made me really reluctant to try the meds I'm supposed to try.


CV2nm

Is this all online? Coming back to Uk soon and cba with nhs. I’m managed well on my own so just want my meds and to be left alone lmao


Sezyluv85

I recommend ADHD 360.


scarednurse

Circle Medicine is really great, esp if you know you had "behavioral issues" as a kid. About $50 all said and done


Blade106

This is what I was going to post lol. Only go NHS if you absolutely can't afford to go private/save for private or you don't really mind forgetting about it for 1-2 years before getting a call to go get diagnosed. As for the process, if anyone's curious, my diagnosis and consultation was cheaper, ~£300 iirc and I've been having monthly calls for £200 for the past few months whilst I get my medication stable. My medication is also more expensive, £60 a month for concerta. Once I get onto NHS prices the costs will calm down but I'm glad I did it.


Savings_Actuator_335

Glad to hear the process worked for you - I'm also from the UK and have suffered from (what I think is misdiagnosed) anxiety/ depression for my entire adult life (I'm 43). There are also plenty of examples from childhood... I've only recently realised that my symptoms fit much better with adhd but my gp has been pretty dismissive. They've said they'll refer me but don't think I can cope with chasing them up for the next 2-3 years... can you message me who you were diagnosed by as I think, as you said, it'll be worth the money to save me the pain of waiting so long?


Savings_Actuator_335

Please forgive the weird username BTW- skipped through the change username bit when I registered. ;)


KateSureIsMyName

Yea of course. I've typed it all out above now because people were asking but Ill pm you it too for safe keeping :)


Savings_Actuator_335

Thanks so much.


Savings_Actuator_335

Thanks again for the info - have tried the number a few times this morning but no answer - do you know any other way of contacting them other than the number on the website?


Little-Obligation-13

I’m 27 and just got diagnosed and I’m so happy I did. My girlfriend was the first to mention it to me, and then my therapist confirmed it. I got tested for ADHD, then prescribed Adderall by my psychiatrist. The first week of it was a little wild emotionally, but after that it leveled out so nicely. I can finally sit through a movie with my girlfriend without feeling like I’m being tortured or just falling asleep. At work, instead of hopping from project to project every 30 minutes to an hour, I can do much bigger projects and complete them from start to finish without major distractions by my own brain. I could say so much more, but it all sums up to yes, I think it’s worth it to get diagnosed. Changed my world.


Reuti

I literally got my diagnosis officially this evening, through the NHS but they sent me private psychiatryuk I believe they're called. All I can say is it's a huge weight being lifted off me. Just having someone tell me that I'm not insane, I do find it harder to sort my shit out than most. I'm due for meds but I do have a 12 week wait on that, but it's a damn sight better than the two years for most. I think, for me, it's just confirming that I have certain tendancies. Using medication to help stabilise my life, and help manage myself and my condition better.


Music_Is_My_Muse

Jesus Christ. I'm in the US and with meds and two appointments (diagnosis and follow up) it only cost me like 100$


kiwimelon87

Hi, US also and quite certain I have adhd and looking to get an official diagnosis and meds. Did you go through your general practitioner or a psychiatrist? Not sure where to start. Thanks!


Music_Is_My_Muse

I went through my general practitioner. They can tell you if they can give you meds, or they'll refer you out to a psychiatrist who can properly medicate you. It's more likely that you'll need to go through a psychiatrist if you're on other psychiatric medication for, say, depression or anxiety.


kiwimelon87

Awesome thank you, appreciate your response!


Music_Is_My_Muse

Np friend. Hope you get the treatment you're looking for. Protip: it helps if you write down a list of your symptoms to take in with you. Try and make an appointment for about a month out. Over the next month, write down your symptoms. I suggest two pages: one for short descriptions, ie, "executive dysfunction," then on the second page do longer descriptions that are more along the lines of "this is what I'm experiencing and how it's affecting my life." That way if you blank when your doctor asks you what's going on, you have something to reference and put in your file (also make a copy to keep, so you and your doctor both have one).


Ill-Tax-2031

Hey I just had a neuropsychological evaluation. But guess what I scored above average in a couple sections while scoring in the average range for ALL the other sections. I then performed a computer test that determined my attention levels being in the average range. So I have a average IQ with my attention levels being average. But now my psychologist is saying I can’t have ADHD since she would of expected my IQ to be higher than that of my attention levels. However I have a family history of ADHD along with displaying a lot of the inattentive symptoms of ADHD. I also have a diagnosis of Dyspraxia which can be co-morbid with ADHD. So I’m not sure what to do now since I don’t feel like my psychologist is listening to a thing that I have to say to her :(


dreghouserat

"People with ADHD often show impaired performance on psychological tests of brain functioning, but these tests cannot be used to diagnose ADHD." [The World Federation of ADHD International Consensus Statement](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S014976342100049X?via%3Dihub) \- published September 2021. Might be worth trying a new psychologist.


Retro_Monguer

Hi, which meds are you talking for Autism? Thank you in advance


KateSureIsMyName

Just ADHD :) not autism. I'm on Tranquilyn - Methylphenidate Hydrochloride


0rb1t4l

What meds are you on?


Polistera

I got the diagnosis at 39 and it has been life-changing. My meds don’t instill miracles, but i just got a contract extension and a promotion after having had a string of job terminations. It also helped me become calmer and more constructive instead of going down emotional black holes. There will be for sure benefits for you too. If at all possible, try to find a service that specializes in adhd who can give you tips to get a formal test for diagnosis. I only had to wait one month instead of 10 which got me on track to a new job and life.


Typical-Ad-8364

Happy Cakeday!! 😃


Plenty_Range_4750

41 yes old. Diagnosis completely changed my life. Firstly because I've felt shame and not good enough for my entire life on account of all my "failings and faults" that no amount of personal development and trying could "fix". To now have a scientific explanation now for all those things has erased all the shame. and to be part of the ADHD community where we All understand each other has been so comforting and empowering. Meds have changed everything too. I'm not snapping at my family all the time, I'm not exhausted, moody, excessively irritable. I don't have major emotional breakdowns with the fluctuations of estrogen during my monthly cycle anymore. My family has a happy, sane person to live with. I'll always be a silly, goofy weirdo that's just me. And I'm still super forgetful and startle easily, but NBD, we just laugh it off. I'm so thankful for having found out about adult ADHD from memes and videos on social media that now i use my social media to bring awareness and have been able to help a lot of my fellow women on the same path which feels super good too. My family is now seeking help as well, husband and kids, after seeing how much this has helped me. And I have high hopes that my kids won't have to live with all the shame and frustration of going undiagnosed forever like I did. All around this has been the best thing to happen for me in a long time. Can't speak for how it would affect you, but this is my personal experience. Hope it helps! ☺️


preeekup

Hi I also got diagnosed just before turning 41. I am curious what medication worked for you especially for emotional breakdowns with fluctuating estrogen as you mentioned. My symptoms get worse before periods. Sometimes I am up all night and just cant sleep. I tried Adderall 20mg XR was too high. 5mg adderall twice seemed to work on my off days mainly when I was moving around and outside. Now just started vyvanse. I am sensitive to any medication in general and lower doses work for me for pretty much all meds. So trying 10 mg vyvanse. It is going ok. Tried 20mg that didnt give me side effects. Anyways wondering what meds helped you with symptoms from monthly hormonal changes.


Sezyluv85

I just started elvanse a couple of weeks ago and came on today, totally unexpected. No tension, no irritability, no short temper, no isolating myself. It took me by surprise and I feel exactly the same as I did yesterday mood wise, and exactly the same as the week before. For the first time in my whole life after puberty my mood is stable. I'M A STABLE PERSON, IT'S A MIRACLE 😂 I'm here engaging with my daughter and in the moment. Not trying to just get it over with so I can try and recharge!


thecraycatlady

Everything you’ve mentioned speaks to me, I know every meds is different for everybody, but may I ask what meds you are on? We’re still trying to find the good fit for me and I’m curious about yours if u don’t mind :)


Plenty_Range_4750

Of course I'm no doctor and am not giving medical advice. Also, every body, brain and tolerance is different. But since you asked I take Concerta for ADHD also lexotan for anxiety and Wellbutrin for depression.


Ill-Tax-2031

Hey I just had a neuropsychological evaluation. But guess what I scored above average in a couple sections while scoring in the average range for ALL the other sections. I then performed a computer test that determined my attention levels being in the average range. So I have a average IQ with my attention levels being average. But now my psychologist is saying I can’t have ADHD since she would of expected my IQ to be higher than that of my attention levels. However I have a family history of ADHD along with displaying a lot of the inattentive symptoms of ADHD. I also have a diagnosis of Dyspraxia which can be co-morbid with ADHD. So I’m not sure what to do now since I don’t feel like my psychologist is listening to a thing that I have to say to her :(


Plenty_Range_4750

Maybe find someone who specializes in ADHD and will treat you like more of a person and less of a statistic? Sometimes we need to be our own health advocate.


SingingPlanet

Diagnosed and started meds at 46 and oh my god if I had to go back and do it again I would crawl through broken glass and spiderwebs to be able to do it. It has been the best, and most healing 12 months of my life. So grateful for it. I vote absolutely fucking yes.


Exseatsniffer

I was diagnosed last year and I'm 51 now. Getting diagnosed was truly the best thing I've ever done after marrying my wife and having our son. In my youth we only thing we knew about adhd was the H part and wouldn't you know I was all of that except for the H part. In fact was almost the exact opposite of hyper, externally that is. But now I can see and place the what and why about my difficulties and after 50 odd years I can accept that in fact I'm not just a lazy fuck up. I just need to know how to work around my executive dysfunction. One thing though, if you get diagnosed you might fall into the "what would have been my future if they had found out about this back way when"... especially if you get medication and you find out how the "normals" live (approximately). Try not to indulge in that sentiment too much. Your past struggles are part of who you are now dont dismiss them.


itemside

I was fairly recently diagnosed as an adult. It has changed so much about my thinking towards myself. I can recognize the challenges I’ve faced and be proud of my resilience despite ADHD impacting it. Binge eating was the biggest issue for me, so taking medicine has been a life changer. I was starting to research adult ADHD in women, but finding out that BED can be related to it really spurred me into getting help. It now feels that instead of life being like juggling 10 balls while not looking, I’ve got only 3 or 4 up there with my eyes on them now.


ichigogo

CW ED I have oscillated between restrictive ED and BED forever, and getting on ADHD meds as an adult under the care of a good psych has helped me SO much. I always felt like a failure for not being able to \~willpower\~ myself into handling it to a healthy medium.


bugsy4556

The main questions I would ask yourself are “are my symptoms significantly impacting my life?” and “Do I feel like I am able to manage this impact with behavioural changes?” If it is having a significant impact on your life and you don’t feel like you have the capacity to improve it just by changing your behaviour then a diagnosis and maybe medication could be helpful. If a psychiatrist diagnoses you and there’s no reason you can’t be prescribed ADHD medication (history of addiction, heart problems etc.) then you should have no trouble being prescribed medication (I’m from Australia not the US if that means anything, I know the US has a reputation for over-prescribing). People are sometimes scared of adhd medications but they’re really just like any other medication. When used correctly they should be positive things. Some side-effects are normal but it should yield a net positive. It’s overuse, illegal use and abuse that bring the majority of negative effects. Medication probably won’t just transform your life instantly, but it will be a support for making behavioural changes if you don’t feel like you can manage your symptoms and their impact on your life by yourself. If you decide that formal diagnosis isn’t what you want to do, don’t feel like you can’t use adhd resources that are helpful just because you’re not officially diagnosed. Obviously don’t self-diagnose but if techniques and advice online resonates with your experience and is helpful, use it! Good luck!


bento_the_tofu_boy

I fully agree with you. But I have to add. Being diagnosed means you now have pathways to overturn and counter any issue that ADHD causes. Medicine helps a lot. And it just IMPROVES life. I had some headaches with my first medicine but now the one I am taking is absolutely fine. But at some points this improved you will be the new normal and this new and better normal will still have adhd just less of it. So some behaviors are great to address in therapy. For me. The issues that medicine does not treat are the emotional response to time and sensory overload. And therapy is the thing that is helping me preventing this and teaching me to deal with it decently


bugsy4556

Sure, but you don’t need an ADHD diagnosis to go to therapy. If you’re having trouble with certain behaviours you can go to a therapist for help with those behaviours. This is something I did before I even knew I had ADHD. I resolved the problems I was having with emotional regulation without even thinking that they could be a symptom of ADHD. But also, at least where I live (Australia), psychologists (therapists) can diagnose ADHD. So they can help you with ADHD in a targeted manner. However, you’ll need to essentially be rediagnosed by a psychiatrist if you decided that medication is an option you want to try.


bento_the_tofu_boy

Yes. But naming my demons helped me control it


bugsy4556

Sure, that will help some people. If someone feels they need that then they should persue a diagnosis


bunchedupwalrus

I just want to ask why a history of addiction would preclude medication? Addictive behaviours and substance abuse are a common symptom of untreated ADHD, and for me at least, medication curtailed it almost entirely. Most addictions are dopamine seeking almost by definition. Correct the imbalance and you massively improve the ability to control the impulses


bugsy4556

It’s primarily because stimulant medication can be highly addictive and are very commonly abused substances. It doesn’t necessarily preclude you from being able to be prescribed these medications but it’s definitely something a psych will want to discuss in order to make a decision about whether or not these medications are right for you.


Fancy_Refrigerator56

I was diagnosed at 24 I think. Medication changed my life completely. I was struggling in school and studying but still making low grades. Started meds and like magic I was making A’s. I got promoted twice at work. I was some how much better with money when I used to be terrible with it. I was finally able to budget and save for a new car. I’m forever grateful for the psychiatrist that diagnosed me and got me started on meds.


markko79

I was diagnosed at age 35. I'm glad I did it. Was put on methylphenidate sustained release 54 mg a day. It helped immediately. My girlfriend can tell if I missed a dose. I'm 61 now and still of the med.


Zackandleemajors

I'm in the US. I went through the trouble and expense of getting diagnosed at 29 and am really happy I did, meds aside. I have benefitted from reading about the disorder and all the little ways it permeates into my life. One example, and I can't remember the name of the problem, but someone on here was talking about how ADHD causes you to get tired of your partner in certain monthly cycles. Oh that's why I just pick fights once a month. Other ways include gamifying my brain to give it what it wants instead of fighting it all the time.


TheWhiteStallion

Do you happen to have the link to that post on that?


Zackandleemajors

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q6m35f/pro_tip_take_lots_of_pics_with_your_partner_of/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share


ailovelamp

I can’t explain how much better my life is with the diagnosis. Before I got treatment I was essentially nonfunctional. - Could barely get out of bed due to executive disfunction. - Would freeze and be unable to complete tasks. - I would forget basic things like eating, appointments. - I was repeatedly getting demotions, and was on the verge of being fired simply because I couldn’t start the tasks I was very capable of doing. - My thoughts moved so quickly that I couldn’t keep up with them, and they would bounce to the next topic before I could finish a thought. (This also showed up in the way I was speaking, I would pause in odd places to try and gather my thoughts up/make it coherent) - My inner critic was SO LOUD. I felt like a complete idiot because my executive functioning was so bad, and because my impulse control was poor I had no way to disengage from it. I got diagnosed this year (in my 30’s) and shortly after was prescribed medication and it completely changed my life. I have no words to describe how much better my life is now. I can start and finish tasks and set goals. My inner critic has gotten quiet, and the constant running thoughts have slowed down enough to stay on one train of thought. Even without medication, simply understanding how my brain works is massively helpful. Knowing what does or doesn’t need to happen for me to function is helpful. It can also be good to know for having accommodations made at work as well. If you’re able to get a diagnosis, I can’t recommend it enough.


PainfulKneeZit

How could there not be benefits to it? It's hard to live with it without any kind of help. I just got diagnosed and started on Adderall two months ago at 29. The difference it has made has been like night and day and I honestly still can't believe this is how "normal" people live everyday. Even if nothing else, the fact that now I can actually do things I want and need to do when I think about it, and also when I have to wait, and still am able to, is utterly mind blowing. I'm so much more productive now and of course that has a positive impact on my mood and well being. It is absolutely worth it to get diagnosed as an adult; it's never too late


coffee-no-stress

I got diagnosed as an adult and while I'm quite similar with my mom in all adhd aspects, she has no desire to get a dg. She handles her life a lot better than I do and things that bother me doesn't bother her. So while I can't be sure she has ADHD, I think even if she did qualify for a dg, it wouldn't bring noticeable value to her life like it did mine.


InncnceDstryr

Yes, if nothing else just see your GP and explain why you think you have it and ask them to refer you to an ADHD specialist. The waiting list for NHS treatment can be really long - I waited just over two years for my recent diagnosis. First line treatment for ADHD on the NHS is medication, it’ll be an ADHD specialist rather than your GP that prescribes it to you and works with you to find the right med and the right dose. I’m 34 and my diagnosis and meds have been a big help to me.


PeppermintJones

I was diagnosed at 19 and at 28 I’m finally on medication and holy shit that stuff can be life changing. For example, I used to have people hounding me for business cards once I started tattooing and after two years I ended up back on meds and I literally had business cards made and at my house in less than a week. Things that were too much for me to handle were suddenly simple and easy. Life became much more manageable. Obviously medication can only go so far but I’ve had a great experience. Honestly just being able to view yourself in a different light helps as well. Before I was diagnosed I just kind of thought I was lazy and unmotivated but now I can see that I was just struggling. Knowing that your brain works a little different may change how you go about normal day to day life stuff and it might help some of the things you may struggle with.


[deleted]

I was diagnosed at 27 (Scotland) and it allowed me access to medication that has been a complete game changer, reasonable adjustments at work, and it has helped me get over my imposter syndrome (thinking I don’t have ADHD and I’m actually just lazy). My advice would be if you aren’t sure, start the process now because if you plan to go through the NHS you might end up on a waitlist for a while anyway. If you eventually decide you don’t want to pursue a diagnosis, you can call and cancel and the spot goes to the next person on the list. If you do decide a diagnosis will be helpful then at least you’re already closer to an appointment.


D4vid971

I wouldn't have been successful in a career without being medicated, so for me being diagnosed was a life changer.


rricenator

Proper meds and good therapy (CBT) will help you no matter your age. I was diagnosed at 42


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PomegranateNo975

I got diagnosed officially a few days ago. I’ve pretty much known for years, but being able to describe my brain with one term rather than going into detail is a huge help. Additionally, for me, my doctor went into detail about where exactly I struggle, and how adhd most impacts me. Everyone struggles differently. For me, adhd medication stabilizes my mood (I get pretty depressed without it), allows me to focus far better (seriously. I thought I could focus before I took it. It helps so much) and it allows me to manage sensory inputs better. Again, medications affect everyone differently, and not all of them work the same. Further, at least here in the US, you can use your diagnosis to get accommodations. Definitely in school/college, and in jobs as well (Again, US healthcare is garbage so I’m not sure if it’s different elsewhere). I personally think it’s very worth it, if nothing else then for the validation of knowing that no, you’re not lazy, your brain just works against you.


Dashiepants

I was diagnosed as a kid but rarely medicated because I was generally functional, got decent grades and didn’t lose jobs. Now I am on meds and I’m not just keeping my head above water… my house is always clean, my bills get paid on time, I’m excelling instead of just existing. I wish I had started medicating sooner.


Mikourei

I don't know the process or available treatments in the UK, but I was diagnosed at 36 in the US and it's been life changing and not only in the obvious ways. It's easier to talk. My mind isn't constantly bouncing around between all the possible responses and I don't lose my train of thought mid sentence anymore. I can zero in on the conversation and not get lost in everything going on around me. I'm more succinct and efficient in what I'm communicating and not having to backtrack to explain something that I've ether forgotten about or is irrelevant to the conversation. My relationships are better. I don't forget to reach out or respond to texts anymore, highlighted by the fact that I don't get the "???" texts from friends and family when I unintentionally leave someone on read. My living space is cleaner. I had a bad habit of letting things pile up even when I was motivated to keep things clean. I don't have piles of weeks old takeout boxes, I don't have clean clothes in the dryer. My dishwasher gets unloaded when the dishes are clean. I'm eating better. I actually remember to get groceries so I'm not forced to get fast food or delivery. Not only that, but I'm saving money because I'm able to look at my upcoming schedule and plan my meals around that and wasting less food overall. This is just scratching the surface and I'm leaving some things out because they're obvious or many other people have already mentioned them. It's definitely worth looking into, and even if you don't have ADHD it's worth talking with someone to help you find a way to overcome the things you're struggling with.


dearestdrew

I too had been wondering if I had ADHD, for quite some time now. Like you, the experiences that others shared about their own ADHD resonated with me as an adult, and looking back on my own childhood. After a lot of waiting and several different appointments, I was finally diagnosed earlier this week. I just started medication yesterday and am already noticing an astonishing difference. The best way to describe the past 48 hours is to say: for the first time in my entire life (I’m 25 now), I am able to think one thought at a time. When I have a thought that requires an action, I’m able to physically do that action. Whereas before, I would spend hours delaying the simplest of tasks and when I did them, it would take me way longer than it should. Taking care of myself seems so simple now (eating, hygiene, housework), when a few days ago it felt like a series of impossible tasks. It quite literally feels like the noise has been turned down in my brain and I’m able to focus on what I need to do. Of course everyone will have a different reaction to different medications, but based on my own experience so far… it’s worth getting diagnosed, especially if it helps you access medication / other supports you may need. It’s also been really great to feel apart of a community that I can relate to, instead of feeling like a failure my entire life. You are worth all the hurdles. I promise.


FuzzyDice12

How did you go about getting diagnosed if you don’t mind me asking. I’m 99.9% sure I have adhd as well, put off being diagnosed because I didn’t want to have to be medicated but I’m starting to see where I need it in my life.


dearestdrew

I live in Canada so I’m unsure what it is like elsewhere, but for me it took a lot of self-advocacy. I initially started by getting a new psychiatrist! I’ve had numerous throughout my life, but was constantly told my only issues were depression and anxiety. So I went to the best hospital I knew of in my area (during a crisis tbh), in hopes of seeing a psychiatrist there. Because I did not stay as in patient at that hospital, I waited about six months before I had my initial consultation with my new psychiatrist. Which is a ridiculous amount of time, but about average here unfortunately. It was the first time I had a psychiatrist listen to me and do a full intake — completing a full diagnostic assessment is a requirement of their position (quite LITERALLY their job), but it was the first time I’d actually had a proper one done, despite having seen about five other psychiatrists prior. I had a few other possible diagnosis on his radar, so he was uncomfortable confirming by his assessment alone and encouraged me to seek psychotherapy where I could be further assessed. I admitted to him that I did not have coverage to access that kind of treatment at this time and said I was specifically seeking an official diagnosis, for a multitude of reasons. Because he knew I could not afford psychotherapy, I was referred to another psychiatrist (his colleague) for a second opinion to confirm. I then met with the second psychiatrist and by his assessment, he was comfortable confirming three different diagnosis, ADHD being one of them. The second psychiatrist told me candidly that he does not understand why many of his colleagues are not comfortable confirming ADHD as a diagnosis, but that he assumes it is because of prejudice towards the possible misuse of medication. Needless to say, it took a lot of me saying, “I know something is wrong and if you’re not going to help me, then I will find someone who will.” I was very confident I had ADHD and I just kept advocating for myself until someone finally believed me, assessed me properly and prescribed the treatment I was so desperately seeking. The good thing about ADHD medication is that if it feels like it’s working, it is. I’m surprised smaller prescriptions are not filled for patients who are suspected to have ADHD, simply to test if it helps relieve their debilitating symptoms. Using medication before an official diagnosis may seem kind of unorthodox, but it almost seems applicable when it comes to ADHD. I truly hope you are able to access the supports you need and deserve, wherever you are in the world. The way you are experiencing reality is valid. Don’t stop advocating for yourself until someone listens. I know I say this coming from a place of privilege and appreciate the validity of discouragement, but rest assured… it’s life changing & you are worth it. Good luck! <3


Ill-Tax-2031

Hey I just had a neuropsychological evaluation. But guess what I scored above average in a couple sections while scoring in the average range for ALL the other sections. I then performed a computer test that determined my attention levels being in the average range. So I have a average IQ with my attention levels being average. But now my psychologist is saying I can’t have ADHD since she would of expected my IQ to be higher than that of my attention levels. However I have a family history of ADHD along with displaying a lot of the inattentive symptoms of ADHD. I also have a diagnosis of Dyspraxia which can be co-morbid with ADHD. So I’m not sure what to do now since I don’t feel like my psychologist is listening to a thing that I have to say to her :(


dearestdrew

I am by no means in any position to say you have, or don’t have ADHD; I’m not a doctor. But it does certainly sound like you are in a predisposition. Regardless of that, if you are seeking treatment for anything, whether that be for a physical ailment or psychological, if the physician you’re seeing isn’t helping relieve your symptoms: find someone who will. If you have the ability and means to get a second or third opinion, do it. No one knows you better than yourself and you have every right to question their diagnostic conclusions if you don’t feel they are fitting, nor their practices helping to relieve your symptoms. Self-advocacy is my best advice, but I know how daunting of journey it is. Best of luck!


Ill-Tax-2031

My GP actually sent a referral through to the mental health team but that got refused. I then went into a emergency medical centre experiencing severe panic attacks. I was crying and screaming too. The doctor then told me that this place is ONLY for emergencies so I got sent home with some anxiety mediation. A person then rang me from the mental health team. I spoke to her about how I was feeling depressed and anxious. She then told me that she couldn’t help me. But guess what as soon as I started telling this lady about ALL of my OCD traits, she then referred me on to see a psychologist. This psychologist I’m seeing is now refusing to diagnose me with anything besides OCD/anxiety, which is actually the reason why I was first referred on to see her in the first place. But this psychologist works for the public health system and so does the psychiatrist I’m seeing on the 9th of November. I’ve also spoke to my GP last month about getting referred onto somebody else. But all my GP said is that she won’t do anything until she gets the written report back from the psychologist I’ve been seeing. Meanwhile I still haven’t seen ANY of the results of the neuropsychological evaluation. I’ve also been on the waiting list to see a occupational therapist for the last 4 months through the public health system. But yeah our public health system sucks and if were to be accessed privately for ADHD, I would have to pay $1000+. This cost doesn’t include the price of price of appointments and medication either. Meanwhile this isn’t affordable for me since I’m a unemployed person with NO health insurance which sucks :(


dearestdrew

Completely understand the financial position you’re in and how it limits you! I’m in the same boat; currently unemployed, without any sort of coverage. I couldn’t afford to get privately tested either and navigating our healthcare system is a complete circus. It sounds like you’ve already been through a lot of hurdles and am so sorry that no one has validated your experience yet. Are you in Canada as well? I have an unorthodox suggestion.


Ill-Tax-2031

It’s so great finding somebody in the same position as I am NO offence. I do hope you get the treatment that you deserve. But I’m NOT based in Canada since I’m from NZ. But I’ve heard of people getting a diagnosis from a psychologist on a zoom call for a discounted price in Canada if that was your unorthodox solution?


dearestdrew

Aw I’m sorry :( I’m unsure how our healthcare systems differ, but our situations are strikingly similar. That would be ideal, but no it wasn’t my suggestion! Idk how helpful it would be there (and I hope you don’t take offence), but a way of seeing a new psychiatrist almost immediately here, is being an impatient in the psychiatric ward in a public hospital. The way I acquired my new psychiatrist was by going to the hospital in a state of crisis. I know you mentioned that you had done so, while having a panic attack… but that’s often not enough to get them to admit you (at least here). I (now, and suspected then) have a BPD diagnosis and wanted to k*ll myself and was there seeking to be admitted so I did not harm myself. The crisis was deescalated and I went home instead, waiting about six months to the see the new psychiatrist. But the thing is, if I were admitted (and I was given the option) then I would’ve seen the next psychiatrist who was on duty for the ward, the following weekday and my medication would be adjusted and evaluated immediately. I already knew this from previous experiences and chose a really good hospital to go to during this crisis, instead of one I’d been to many times. I guess what I’m trying to say is that if you tell them you’re suicidal and are in fear of harming yourself, at least in Canada… you can be admitted. I’ve done that before years ago and it sucks, but you are provided with a psychiatrist who you have an appointment with, almost daily while you’re in the psychiatric ward. I don’t usually condone “lying” or embellishing something like suicidal ideation if you’re not experiencing it (I was), but I know for a fact that it lowkey cheats the system… at least here. The only trick is that you don’t know how long they’ll make you stay, or if you’ll get a good psychiatrist. Kind of the luck of the draw. Not even sure if this situation is applicable in NZ, so I apologize if not. I hope you don’t take offence to this suggestion. I only brought it up because it sounds as though you have exhausted many avenues and I emphasize with how frustrating that can be. It’s a very roundabout way of seeking help, but it’s truly the fastest when it comes to mental illness. The amount of times I’ve shown up at emerge for being suicidal is astonishing, but I learned it was the fastest way to get help. Everything other than that is an agonizing waiting game.


Ill-Tax-2031

No offence taken desperate times call for desperate measures. I actually asked if I could be admitted to the psychiatric ward on the phone call I had with that lady from the mental health team. But the lady declined my request. That lady also said that I if were to be admitted into a psychiatric ward I would be traumatised. That lady also kept implying that I wouldn’t be able to defend against myself against the other patients and that would it cause more harm for me than good. I’ve also had thoughts of bringing a knife into my doctors office. I’ve also had thoughts of bringing a knife into my local medical centre. I was never planning on using this knife either but I was that desperate to get the help I needed. I also had thoughts of driving my car into the ocean just to the escape the sinking vehicle to ring emergency services. Anyways it got to the stage where I wasn't sleeping for more than a couple hours each night. I was hearing several songs replay in my head non stop. I wasn't eating or sleeping properly for months. I was experiencing ALL of these violent thoughts because I was that desperate for psychological intervention. I was also crying every day and having several meltdowns. I was also lashing out at the people that meant the closest to me including my case worker . Anyways as I was telling my psychologist ALL of she this she made me take a personality test. After the test I started experiencing several panic attacks. When I started to calm down the psychologist told me our time was up. I then started crying and screaming at the psychologist saying that I can't leave the room. I then asked the psychologist if I could see a doctor urgently but she kept dodging my requests. I then got down on the floor rocking back and fourth. As I was on my knees I was crying and screaming. I was hitting myself while pulling at my hair. I also started having another panic attack. I then got up to sit in my chair just to end up throwing a tissue box at the psychologist. A male staff member then came into the room and threatened to throw me out. The psychologist then had a talk with the staff member outside. The male then came back into the room without the psychologist to come and speak to me. I then starting telling this guy about how I was experiencing ALL of these violent thoughts. I told him about how I had thoughts of bringing in a knife to use as a prop. I told him I wasn't planning on use this knife but I just wanted to get the help that I needed. But ALL this guy said to me is that I will end up in the justice system. He said if I were to pull a knife I would end up in prison NOT getting the help that I need. He also said if I were to pull a knife people may not know that I don't plan on using it. So yeah I've tried absolutely everything to get the help I need to NO avail which sucks. There is also ONLY 1 Hospital where I live and I have yet to see the psychiatrist. I also went to the emergency Centre months ago just for the doctor to tell this place is ONLY for emergencies. I’ve then had a psychologist that works for the public health system turn me away :( So I’m honestly NOT sure what to do now I’m all seriousness :(


anxiousturtle23

Yes. You can try medication if you are struggling. If you have learned to live with your symptoms and it works for you then maybe it’s fine for you to go undiagnosed. It’s good to at least learn about ADHD and maybe make tweaks to make life easier. The biggest benefit for me is the impulsive stuff. Talking to fast, etc. If you find yourself finishing peoples’ sentences and interrupting, that is something to consider. I take a non stimulant medication and my productivity is much better. Do you binge eat? Lose track of time? These things can have consequences for adults. Has your self esteem suffered due to your symptoms? I had a whole life of self berating. I had to learn to forgive myself, gain self compassion. I have shed so much shame. There are definitely benefits.


thepoorwarrior

How does a non-stimulant med work for add?


anxiousturtle23

I take Strattera which is an SNRI. It’s an antidepressant but works for ADHD. I’ve never tried a stimulant because I am prone to anxiety so the dr thought it would be better to go the non-stimulant route.


thepoorwarrior

That sounds pretty great. Does it help your serotonin without the jitters? I can’t imagine


anxiousturtle23

It’s been helpful to me for sure. I do get some mild side effects. My sleep is lighter but I also fall asleep early. My appetite is sometimes not there so I won’t want to eat and I’ll get dizzy. I think I’m more sensitive to caffeine. Nothing major. I had tried an SSRI, which had a bunch more side effects. I was only recently diagnosed with ADHD (although it’s been a long time coming!) so I made the switch. It’s a much better fit.


FunkNugget

To echo what some have said here: Absolutely there is, **yes**. I was diagnosed at 30 and it wasn't life changing, it was life *saving*. There is still so much catching up to do, and every day is work, but now I have the fighting chance I never had before.


princess_ferocious

40yo, diagnosed at 38. Total game changer. I'd always assumed I was just dealing with various forms of anxiety, until a friend online made the suggestion of adhd. Did a bunch of reading and saw myself in all of it. But I'd been mostly managing my anxiety (mostly), and I wasn't sure if I could cope with all the appointments and tests involved in a diagnosis. What finally made me start the process was reading about adhd medication. Compared to most psych meds, it's remarkably effective. So much so that it's my shrink's final test - you know you have adhd if taking the meds makes a difference. I'd never bothered pursuing further treatment for anxiety, because I could do most of the CBT exercises myself, and the medication is erratic with side effects that can be horrendous. But knowing that it could be a condition that could be effectively medicated, it suddenly seemed silly NOT to go check it out. I got diagnosed, got medicated, and suddenly I wasn't playing life on the hardest difficulty mode anymore. It's still tough. I learnt too many bad habits and experienced too much trauma before I got diagnosed. But it's so, so much easier. Anxiety doesn't feel like a bunch to the gut anymore. My emotions are present without being overwhelming (most of the time). I'm more comfortable in myself and more successful in my life. I've been able to do things I didn't have the strength or focus to do before. And I've been able to be kinder to myself when the meds aren't enough to overcome things. Because now I know it's not that I'm hopeless and failing and just refuse to try hard enough - my brain does not work as expected. I can recognise now when I've hit an adhd wall, and need to go find a different way to do something, or ask someone for help, instead of just figuring I'm never going to be able to do that, so I should just get used to failure. I think it's absolutely worth seeking a diagnosis, at any age. Future you will thank you for it.


whatsmynamema

It’s completely down to the individual. Are your symptoms causing you problems & holding you back? If so then yes I diagnosis can be life changing. It can explain why you are the way you are & the more you know about what your problems are the easier they are to work upon. Medication is also a big game changer, if you got a diagnosis then you would most likely be offered medication, it’s very common in the UK. I’ve only been on meds 2 months but it’s been two completely different versions of me, I’m now the me I always tried so hard to be but never could achieve due to my adhd. But honestly it’s all down to you, do you want a diagnosis/medication?


jennye951

I was diagnosed and did a lengthy detailed titration with psychiatry _uk. Life changing, not too bad a wait and now my GP gives me the medication. I didn’t have to pay for anything at any point. Just ask your GP to refer you. I am 55.


Laueee95

I’m 26 and got diagnosed in July or August. Looking back in my childhood, I’ve always had symptoms. I passed under the radar because I’m a woman and ADHD-PI. I wasn’t disruptive. My brother was classic stereotypical hyperactive boy. I’m on Vyvanse. I can say it helps a bit because I’m calmer and can actually focus because I’m calm. I don’t see other improvements though. I’m still exploring dosages and molecules. I also know what the fuck is wrong with my brain and can stop blaming myself. I can also try to find strategies to help me work with my brain.


BellaBlue06

I was lucky to be diagnosed recently in Canada. The doctor was known for helping people with adhd and recommended by a walk in clinic that I called. He prescribed me Vyvanse right away to try. I’m grateful to have an option and will see how it goes. I just got so tired of feeling exhausted and brain foggy every day and sometimes feeling paralyzed with executive dysfunction and not being able to focus for good amounts of time. It got worse with covid and staying home more. So I’m hoping I can get more done now.


StretchAgreeable3783

Absolutely. My husband recently was diagnosed and has begun taking medication. I can tell you that it’s saved our marriage. ❤️


Musashi10000

Don't really have the time to go too deep into this. I'm a brit, diagnosed in Norway. Meds really make a huge difference to your life. Promise. Have two friends still in the UK, also diagnosed as adults, same story. You will be prescribed meds if diagnosed, as long as your doctor isn't an idiot. Main problem in the UK is getting a diagnosis. Tory treatment of the NHS has gutted mental health services - even in 2018, you were looking at three-year waiting lists as standard. No clue what they'll look like now.


Golden_Lioness_

Yes help!!


jessemath47

Not sure I understand the distinction between you being an adult or child, it’s like asking if it’s worth getting a diagnosis for asthma as an adult or bipolar depression as an adult, makes no difference, all that matters is how much it affects your life if it’s not something you can easily overcome through your own self, get medication and or a combination of medication and therapy


bluecrime1

I'm from the UK too. You will be prescribed medication if you are diagnosed. Likely a stimulant medication if you don't have any other health problems. If it'll help is anyone's guess. But you can always try.


query_whether

YES


nivpgir

Short answer: yes. Long answer: definitely yes


overgrown-weeds

I got diagnosed at 17/18ish. It's been very helpful to have the diagnosis because i can see that what im doing is a symptom of what i have. And i can apply techniques to help me go about it differently. I live in USA so I'm not sure about meds. But i WAS on ritalin, it helped so much! But i had adverse effects such as hyperreflexia. So i had to go off it and any other stimulant medication. Im now on strattera which is a ssnri (im pretty sure) so far that's kinda helping? But medication works differently for everyone. I do recommend a professional diagnosis. I got mine from a psychiatrist who specialized in adhd. I actually was just seeing him for intake, and he wae like YUP ITS OBVIOUS and told me i had it! I never thought i did


moonythejedi394

it depends on what you're doing? for me it was a huge relief bc i'm in college and a diagnosis meant i have paperwork for accomodations/prescription for meds. if you're in a work or school environment where you feel stressed about completing tasks in time often, maybe consider it?


veggieblonde

I was diagnosed at 20 and can safely say it has changed all aspects of my life. Even if you’re not in school anymore, school isn’t everything. I’m great in school, but my ADD was overwhelming many other parts of my life. In my opinion, it’s worth looking into!


majorddf

Adult in UK diagnosed at 34. Yes there is benefit.


ReachNo8043

Always knew I had it. Officially diagnosed at 48 and began small dose generic Addy 7 months ago. I wish my experience were as positive as everyone else is. The meds are hit or miss for me. Some days they're great, other days not so much. I'm trying to find a balance that works for me. At the same time I'm terrified of becoming dependent and constantly needing an increase. I read about it all the time.


Kitchen_Lecture_2675

I hear it sucks to have ADHD in Europe. I don’t know about specifically UK though. I got diagnosed at 33 and it changed my life. My entire life I felt different, under a mental weight. Took meds and it was like wiper blades clearing the windshield.


SnackPocket

GOD YES if only for your own peace.


Chicken_Moustache

I was officially diagnosed this year at 46 after suspecting it for a couple of years and it is totally changing my life. I was diagnosed with dysthymia (Persistent Depressive Disorder) 20 years ago but even with medication I never felt relief. Now on stims and it is kicking both my ADHD and my dysthymia. I stopped feeling ashamed and depressed, my self esteem is much better, and I am now much happier at home and at work because I communicate better. I got a sort of promotion and I have a meeting in 2 days about a project I proposed and that my bosses are interested in. Also, much less stress and anxiety, and better sleep. Do it! That said, I understand where you're coming from. When my shrink told me 2 years ago that I may have ADHD, my firsy reaction was: "So what? I'm not in school anymore!" That was before I learned about inattentive ADHD and the impact it has on one's life.


Custard_Tart_Addict

Validity and possible medication to help you focus. That’s my goal and I still curse all the idiot professionals that I was was dragged to that expected a 7 to 12 year old to tell them exactly what the problem was….


Patient-Hyena

Yes. I find that it has helped me understand myself better. Also it helps not feeling like I am lazy or procrastinate because I want to, but it is due to my brain. I can work past it without beating myself up. It also gives access to the meds which help my brain have more function.


[deleted]

I think so. It gives you the affirmation that all the things you’ve done all this while finally make sense. Plus you can explain to employers that you have the condition if need be to get accommodations.


foreverdysfunctional

All of these reasons mentioned above! Plus of course financial benefits and disability credits are super helpful. Adhd is a disability and that's nothing to be ashamed of. It's true that it is and it affects so much of your life. Of course depending on where you live for all of these mentioned. Now bc you have a disability, you can ever get exemptions to things like having extra people with you for appointments and or typically private things. Helpful for me with my people pleasing tendencies and anxiety. I need someone to help me stick to plans and ask questions in appointments or just general support. There's also jobs, conferences, and resources just for those who are neuro divergent. Which I think is baller. In my case, there was no downside to being diagnosed. There's a lot of fear, questioning, and challenges. That being said, that would happen anyway without a diagnosis. Keep on keeping on and you do you. Best of luck 🤞 ☺️


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YES


Sergeant-Pepper-

Yes it’s worth it. When I got my diagnosis at 22 I was barely holding a job as a Starbucks barista and I was failing out of my third college degree. As soon as I went on adderall I started doing well in school but it still just wasn’t for me. I dropped out and started my business a few months later. At 24 I’m a highly esteemed cabinet painter in my area making upwards of $2k a week. My diagnosis was life changing.


GebThePleb

I was diagnosed with adhd when I was around 12 (which my parents didn’t tell me lmao) and I didn’t see a doctor about it until it got so bad that my parents finally decided to take me in when I was about 18. I was prescribed my first medication to treat it but stopped taking it less then a year after. Recently (I’m 25 now) I am now back on medication after years of struggling and reaching a boiling point. So many things have improved in my life since taking the initiative to deal with my ADHD. My day to day life, as well as my mental health have improved. I can get more things done, I’m more focused on my objectives, and I perform my tasks better. The absolute main bonus, simply put, is that I’m happier. When I’m on my medication, I’m just plain happier. Im more empathetic, understanding, and just nicer. I wasn’t a mean person before, but certain things could easily put me in a sour mood, or I could be worked up into being anxious or bitter, but this doesn’t happen anywhere near as much now and when it does it’s 1/100 of the scale it would be before. Physically I also feel better. My body feels more alert and my mind is less cloudy. Due to a mixture of the meds and no longer having my ADHD keep me from putting off tasks by sometimes fixating on food, I eat less and am losing weight, which is a good thing because now I eat a healthy amount and I could go for losing a few pounds while keeping a few dollars. Before my meds I would have to sleep at the bare minimum 9 hours to operate throughout the day without being bogged down and exhausted. Now I can sleep 5-6 hours without being walking zombie who had to sleep during my lunch hour at work just to not collapse. I can’t say much for what a diagnoses would do, but for me it never had any impact on my life outside of just being able to understand why I think or do certain things. It also helped with a couple relationships where I would be able to tell my girlfriends at the time that certain actions or behaviors I would do (like sometimes not remembering things we had planned or me zoning out during a conversation) are not because I don’t care, but it’s because I can’t help it. But these things don’t specifically need a diagnoses. The only thing I could say really drastically changed my life in terms of being an adult with ADHD is the medication. Sorry for the long wall of text lmao but I hope it helps, you deserve to be happy and should take any steps necessary to not let this stupid mental thingy get in the way.


JuniperHillInmate

Yes! I finally feel, not normal, but less weird. I'm able to wait til others are done talking instead of just running right over them. I don't have to keep going back for stuff I forgot. I don't completely miss obvious things. I haven't wrecked my car, or even driven over a curb since I started medication. The biggest thing is *I can think one thought at a time* instead of having fragments of many floating around in my head and no ability to put them together in some cohesive way others can understand. Turns out I'm also on the autism spectrum and it's answered so many questions and a lot of the stuff I hated myself for has been rectified. I wouldn't go back to my unmedicated life for anything.


snsaklani

I’m a month away from turning 25 and got diagnosed last week, this has been the best fortnight in my life I feel good I have the motivation and energy to do things focus on what I need to do and procrastinate way less than I used to.


Exxcelled

Yup. Actually gentlemen who did my assessment years ago. Was an adhder who was diagnosed in his 40s and within just a few years he had completed his schooling and changed his life completely.


paintpips

Personally, it was a life-changing discovery. I got sober last year, and a few months after sobering up, I noticed I was still struggling with day to day tasks and executive function. At the time, I had been medicated for depression and anxiety, but hadn't found much success or help from them. My doctor said that females who are on the high functioning end of the ADHD spectrum, often times get misdiagnosed with depression and/or anxiety, when they're actually struggling with undiagnosed symptoms of ADHD. I got diagnosed shortly after. We started medication last summer, and this spring I got off antidepressants and anti-anxiety medication. It's made a world of a difference in my life!


fermentedelement

10000%. Medication changed my life. Plus, there are other mental disorders that share symptoms with ADHD. I went in for an ADHD diagnosis and my therapist asked me if I had a trauma history — apparently CPTSD and ADHD can present very similarly. Turns out I have both, but I wouldn’t have known unless I sought an official diagnosis. The diagnosis process can be difficult, but it’s so worth it. Good luck!


khajiithassweetroll

I say this a lot, but only bc it’s a good point: If you’re struggling, it never hurts to reach out to a professional. If it’s ADHD, great! Whether or not you decide to take medication, you now know a little more about yourself and how to find ways to help you manage your daily struggles. It’s not ADHD? That’s still great! Your care team will point you in the right direction to help you figure out what’s going on.


Pzykimon

Medication basically changed my life. I am a better version of myself. A better husband, a better farther, a better colleague, and I no longer feel like ending my miserable life every single day, because my life is no longer miserable. I don't wanna get your hopes up, because one of my friends cannot medicate, and I've seen others in here say, that it just doesn't do anything for them. So it is not a surefire solution. But!!! IF it works, the fog will be lifted, and you will get to go through the rest of your life on easy-mode, compared to what you are used to.


capeandacamera

Yes yes yes yes yes yes and yes. Didn't want to take meds either but thought I'd get assessed anyway. Am in the UK. I ended up taking Elvanse. The experience of this was a bit like when I didn't go and get my eyes tested for several years after realising I needed glasses- once my vision was corrected I began to realise quite good much I'd missed before. Meds was like that but for the whole contents of my life really.


theingleneuk

It absolutely changed my life. Adderall removed that wall between me and the 90% of mental energy and focus that I always thought was there but couldn’t find a way through the wall to access. It’s eye-opening how much that affects all aspects of your life - it’s a lot easier to listen to someone without getting impatient, or at least without showing impatience, for example, and it’s easier to do the little the things that, for example, sustain a relationship in the long run. Driving became much less dangerous. Academics, of course, became significantly more manageable, although I certainly still can get myself into trouble with classes that I find singularly uninteresting. European doctors in particular, even when they can legally prescribe a stimulant like adderall or Ritalin, are rarely inclined to do so, despite that class of drugs being significantly more effective than non-stimulants like Strattera, better-tolerated, and studied for a longer period of time, as stimulant medications have been available for decades. So you might (or might not!) have a hard time being prescribed a stimulant, but I would recommend, if you do get diagnosed and you do want to try ADHD medication, that you be reasonably insistent about trying a low dose of a stimulant before trying Strattera or similar. If the one stimulant works but has mild side effects that you don’t like, try the other stimulant - Ritalin didn’t work as well for me as adderall, for example. My viewpoint is heavily biased by the facts that it was life-changing for me and that I despise how reticent many medical professionals are to prescribe an effective, well-tolerated medication. Do what feels right for you.


DIDLDIDIDI

I’ve recently been diagnosed with adult ADHD. In the UK I’m afraid it’s a looooong process. I spoke to my GP after a diagnosed sufferer said I should seek help and she seemed to agree and sent me off for referral. Around 9 months later I had a video interview with a doctor who diagnosed me and I’m on a waiting list to be titrated into Ritalin. I can’t comment on the meds yet but if day speak to your doctor and get the process started.


rozlinski

Absolutely worth it. I’m struggling to find the right meds or even if I want meds, but just having the knowledge is a game changer. Recognizing behavior and traits and using tips and solutions others have tried is really helpful. The best thing so far is knowing I’m not simply a screw up. There is a whiplash-inducing roller coaster of emotions — relief, rage, grief, hope — but acknowledging the role of ADHD in my whole life is invaluable. I’m 61 and diagnosed this year in March. Also, knowing I have a supportive tribe has been really great.


Ann_Fetamine

The medication is life-changing in my opinion. A neurological disorder needs to be treated with a biological treatment. CBT, routines, apps and other approaches are great but you'll never reach your full potential with them if you don't have the dopamine and norepinephrine needed to properly focus and motivate yourself to stick with it. Sleepy frontal lobes require stimulation, to put it bluntly. Some people will disagree and that's fine but there's a reason these medications are still on the market after all these years. They work. Getting a diagnosis can help if you ever go to college and need special accommodations or attempt to get government assistance/benefits from Social Security (or whatever the UK equivalent is). It's always good to document any disability you have, if only for your peace of mind.


4566557557

I got a diagnosis this June at 25 and it’s been very positive. I finally understand the struggles I’ve experienced since a child aren’t purely all my fault and I can now look at ways at preventing them in positive ways


Jude01449

Just want to chime in here as well. 45 late diagnosis. It isn’t one huge thing that’ll change. It’ll be 10000 tiny little things. Quieting the brain was one of the first things I noticed. Don’t waste another day, get it done. 💙


mxddiedavis

I’m 20 years old and only got diagnosed about 2 weeks ago. I started on Adderall a week ago and it’s already been so helpful as I can now actually stay focused on a task instead of hopping around from task to task all day. I think it’s definitely worth at least trying, if you decide you don’t like medication the you can always stop, but it seriously makes everyday life so much easier!


[deleted]

Trust me when I say your life will be much easier knowing you have it


[deleted]

Yes, absolutely. Even if you are a millionaire and close to retirement. Your diagnosis could help your family in the future. I was diagnosed as an adult recently and everything up to that point made sense when I was diagnosed.


boomskats

I’m gonna go ahead and say it, this whole post seems to be a reasonably well executed marketing move by psymplicity.com


eboyoj

i was told uk drs dont care, theyre just their to get u thru school. after that ur not their business


toyoto

I reckon there is benefit, It will give you a qualified answer and you won't have to play silly games in your head about whether or not you have it


MoonlitXV

I probably need to talk to someone about being diagnosed, or not, too. I also recently realized I might have adhd. I dropped out of college because I couldn’t focus on things I needed to do. I have a couple teeth that need fillings and it took me almost three months to schedule an dental appointment. For no good reason. I have insurance. I recently locked myself out of my car with the motor running, because I got distracted by the fact that it was raining. I borderline completely forget to do things I need to do when I get home, and then remember the next day, and try not forget, and do it all over again. For weeks. I don’t know if I have adhd, but this is definitely dysfunctional.


mddnaa

Meds have been so helpful


SpektrumKid

Yes. You can treat yourself accordingly and thus improve your quality of life.


nataliazm

Are there benefits to an adult diagnosis if you elect not to go with medication? I’m **really** struggling through my last semester in school, but I have a job lined up where I kind of think it may be an advantage at a company that treats ADHD as normal and respects that it has its benefits in certain tasks. Even though I can’t maintain a “normal” life for more than three days straight (yeah I’ve really tried), I’ve been using my technical skills to build up a system which compensates for a lot of my issues. I’ve also seen what looking for the right medication has done to my friends, and it scares me. I feel like it’s the thing that also allows me to hold complex and interesting designs in my mind, as long as I’m able to just do whatever if my brain won’t cooperate, then crank out 36 hours of straight focused work.


r1char00

Yes there definitely is. 1) You can be certain instead of second guessing whether you might have it. 2) You can get treatment. 3) You can hopefully be kinder to yourself, knowing that there’s a reason for your behaviors. That last one has been most important to me, but medication has helped too.


CV2nm

Diagnosed at 27. What a game changer. I missed the biggest presentation of my career. I was on a contract overseas I’d been working towards for years, giving the reigns on a massive project, got global recognition and I couldnt even turn up to my own dam presentation cause I ADHD all over it. I had enough and paid for a reassessment. ADHD came up. Got medication. Game changer. Started my own freelancing business, built a campervan into my car and finally got some control of my life back and finally stopped hating my brain. Yes I have bad days, yes my symptoms can screw me. But now I know it’s just the way my brain is. I understand me better, which helps me not be a dick when my adhd is making me seem like one because I can step back and be like woah this is just my adhd. I need to have some space til I can rethink this. I was such an angry, impulsive, chaotic person. I self sabotage without even knowing because I hyperfixate when I’m angry and upset. Now I get it. Now sometimes I know when to step back. Set longer deadlines at work and clients, be realistic with myself. It’s cost me over $2,000 to get here. Worth every penny for not losing work or friends Edit: had to amend errors as typing with one hand due to injury


EpoynaMT

I was diagnosed st 35 after having my second child. Until then, my memory was sharp. I needed assistance from medications after my memory became more average after this pregnancy. So, yes.


expensivemisteak

I’m only 20 and was diagnosed recently so my views may not count as much but getting diagnosed was like this huge relief off my shoulders. I still sometimes struggle with feeling like I’m faking it but knowing that its true means I can apply all these symptoms that I thought were “normal” or just quirks of mine growing up to being undiagnosed. Being on medication and now knowing this part about me has really helped me mentally and in school. On adhd medication i feel more like myself than I have on antidepressants or anxiety meds alone. Instead of feeling like I’m trying to tackle 60 things at once, I can set myself a list of what I need to do and work at it one or two at a time. I don’t feel like I’m arguing with an uncompromising “toddler” all the time. There definitely is still a “toddler” in my head but I can compromise with it so I’m actually getting stuff done. So I guess the question really comes down to if you feel like a diagnosis would help you? Are you comfortable with having just the possibility of having it? Would you feel comfortable with the possibility of starting medication? If its not negatively impacting your life, I say there’s nothing wrong with holding off on a diagnosis if you don’t want to pursue it or aren’t ready to find out, although it is nice to have it in case things start to go downhill. This isn’t to say that you will definitively be on medication if you get diagnosed, as an adult you have way more say in your treatment, and therapy can be a really beneficial way to work through any issues you’re facing with ADHD and coming up with potential ways to work through it. Being diagnosed so far has mostly been helpful, (more for myself and well-being than for others) because I can acknowledge all these things that are actually the adhd and not me as a person. In my brothers case growing up, the schools worked with him to help him succeed, and in my dads case, his workplaces worked with him. You didn’t really talk about how your current life is, but if its impacting you to the point you’re struggling, or even if you just want to know for sure, absolutely pursue it.


datsLex

Apparently... but as someone diagnosed in childhood i sure have a shitty life where none of it helped. I wish being diagnosed helped me like it magically helps others. Take this with a grain of salt i guess.


blazinghellion

Hard to say. Was diagnosed with adhd as a kid(early 90s) and the solution was "get him on meds(made my life 1000x worse). Counceling i college didnt help either and whenever advice they gave and i tried that just made me feel worse was dismissed i just saod "im done trying tk get help" I literally today realized a lot of the massive issues i have are pretty common woth adhd and that alone made me feel a bit better. But ive had my entire life to adjust and adapt and learn to work with it. Helps im also open abulout having it so people at qork are pretty understanding.


Macbeth3737

It has helped me realize a few things (32). I was not happy at my job but I loved it due to external benefits like flexibility but the job itself was awful for my ADHD. I just got fired but I am more hopeful in this (my 3rd or 4th job search I don't have an immediate jumping point) job search. Despite not having a job, and I am blessed with a spouse who earns enough to enable me to be able to find something that supports my deficits. Not sure what that is yet, but I am only 1 week into my firing. I have always been so self aware except to my ADHD which I got diagnosed at 32. This woke me up and has helped me realize I have been looking at my struggles so very differently my entire educational and professional life. Now I can address them properly as I learn with guidance from a professional and the community. I hope you are lucky enough to be able to afford a professional to guide you through the difficulties and realization your entire life could be different but now need to readjust.


RUM8LEFISH

I was diagnosed at 25. I'm 36 now. ADHD medication like concerta which is delayed release can do wonders to help with the symptoms of adhd. However there can be side effects that will require other medications to be treated. Anxiety and depression are also common with people with ADHD. It can be a viscious circle. Meds can help put you back on track if you feel you've gone too far off the path you want to be on.


IsThataSexToy

I was diagnosed at 49!!! Life changing. I understand myself so much better.


Trashband1c00t

I've been on medication for just over a week, and I've caught up on most of the uni work I had been lagging behind on this semester. I've picked up extra household chores and everything is so much cleaner than it used to be. I'm still working on a few things- im struggling to fall asleep when its sleep time, and struggling to wake up, but when im awake and medicated im much more alert and motivated. My anxiety is significantly reduced, because my thoughts are slowed down enough that I can address anxious thoughts as they arise instead of letting them spiral out of control.


Ill-Tax-2031

Hey I guys just had a neuropsychological evaluation. But guess what I scored above average in a couple sections while scoring in the average range for ALL the other sections. I then performed a computer test that determined my attention levels being in the average range. So I have a average IQ with my attention levels being average. But now my psychologist is saying I can’t have ADHD since she would of expected my IQ to be higher than that of my attention levels. However I have a family history of ADHD along with displaying a lot of the inattentive symptoms of ADHD. I also have a diagnosis of Dyspraxia which can be co-morbid with ADHD. So I’m not sure what to do now since I don’t feel like my psychologist is listening to a thing that I have to say to her :(


ItsTheRealMeG

Yes. I was diagnosed last year at 23 and meds have changed my life so drastically. Things don’t seem so helplessly impossible to do anymore. My life in the past year has changed so drastically in every way for the better


damondan

i've been depressed my entire life and ever since i have finally gotten my diagnosis at age 26 i feel so so soooo much better furthermore i have sighted dozens of studies about ADHD (diagnosis) and to my knowledge a diagnosis is beneficial most of the times (regardless of age)


oripash

There is a clear point to getting one when one of the three applies: 1. You need it to convince significant people In your life that ADHD is a thing. *especially* in an imbalanced relationship, for example parents on whom you depend (yes, there are adults who depend on their parents). Also keep in mind that for many people diagnosis is a fought-for-and-won battle, and a moment of emancipation which exonerated then of a lot of blame they carried for how their brain is. It’s a sensitive subject for many, and rightly so. 2. You need it for school/uni for a suitable learning plan. (Which makes it a must for kids). 3. If access to meds will help you (they help most ADHD’ers who take them) and you want this. If any apply - get a diagnosis. If none of these three apply and online resources like this subreddit, the How to ADHD youtube channel etc are enough to get you thriving - it’s purely optional. Self diagnosis is fine if you’re ok with that. You’re still a welcome member of the tribe :) Not everyone in the community has a diagnosis. Not everyone **has access** to a diagnosis, and we don’t and shouldn’t be erecting hard barriers except where we have to by law, like for drug access. We shouldn’t be making the life of people without access to help even harder by withholding the biggest resource of all - a sense of belonging to a supporting tribe of people just like us. But if nothing you try works for you and you can’t figure out how to make brain work with you, do absolutely get help/a diagnosis.


plutonium743

I was diagnosed as a teenager, but didn't have meds my whole adult life until a couple years ago. The difference I have noticed between off meds and on is astounding. Looking back it definitely helped me a lot as a teenager, but I didn't have the self awareness to realize just how much. Even if you don't try to get meds I would recommend trying to find a therapist. It helped me deal with a lot of thought patterns that stemmed from my adhd and other mental health issues.


Deeplostreverie

Also wondering this myself after watching a video and doing some online tests in which I scored quite high. So am curious.


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RocketDodo

Depends, if it impacts your life in a negative way than ya, you could consider it. If it doesnt, no. It wont do you Any good. And also, you should consider what you expect it would change if you Got the diagnosis.