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SalimSadoune

this may be a bit harsh , but our biological goal is to reproduce , and failing to do so means you are biologically useless


bigbluewhales

I don't think I've ever been 100% content and satisfied.


sliferra

My brother will probably have kids, I’m cool with being an uncle, probably easier/more fun than being a parent anyways lol


feeling_minty

Nah, I'm not aromantic and it'd be nice to have the possibility of having sex instead of knowing I'll never have sex again.


eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

Yikes that’s toxic incel behaviour, you shouldn’t rely on others to be 100% satisfied in life


feeling_minty

Incel? How so? I just said I like the thought of the possibility of having sex again and the possibility of having a romantic relationship. I never said I'd be miserable without it. I just feel I wouldn't be 100% satisfied in life (probably around 85% satisfied) but it doesn't mean I start feeling sorry for myself or misogynistic.


eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

You are insanely toxic and a threat to modern society if your life satisfaction is in any way shape or form reliant on other people


feeling_minty

Lol if you say so.


iyamyuarr

That’s a bit dramatic dude.


eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

Just repeating what I’m told


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eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

It’s clear you don’t know the first thing about this, all those resources can only help so much and it’s a spectrum for a reason. Scripting only goes so far, human interaction is complex and once something goes “off script.” What good was that help book now? There’s no way to perfect social interaction for me, multiple therapists have said “just not getting it.” Is something ill have to accept


eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

It’s clear you don’t know the first thing about this, all those resources can only help so much and it’s a spectrum for a reason. Scripting only goes so far, human interaction is complex and once something goes “off script.” What good was that help book now? There’s no way to perfect social interaction for me, multiple therapists have said “just not getting it.” Is something ill have to accept


feeling_minty

You need better therapists then. Conversation starters are just that — starting points for you to practice speaking. You don't just memorize exactly what to say in advance; you start with a talking point, you listen, and you agree politely or politely explain why you disagree (ie. I'm sorry, I respectfully disagree because…). Socializing is a skill. You learn it by doing it more. Sure, you may be born with a -5 to charisma but you can always train that skill by **actually socializing**. It won't be easy. You'll deal with hundreds of conversations that end in silence or discomfort. Get used to it. What matters is practicing anyways. If things get uncomfortable or silent, thank the person for the conversation, say it was nice to meet them, and then say goodbye. With enough practice, even if you start with less social skills than a rock, you'll learn. You're a human. You can learn. There's never going to be a "perfect" social interaction but there's always marginal improvements. Initially stay away from sexual topics, race, or religion and you'll be fine. Just stop feeling sorry for yourself and try talking to people you don't know.


eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

I’ve heard this all before and I’ve done everything you’ve listed. For me, and the way I am it doesn’t work like that. I can learn all the conversation starters there is, I can have as many trial runs as I can. But in the end there will always be times my brain just will not register what is going on, that is just what I have to accept. That is why it is a spectrum, it affects everyone differently despite common symptomsz


SalimSadoune

dude we are social creatures , we rely on each other to survive , that's the point of society , and we are biologically wired to have the desire to reproduce, there is nothing wrong with that


eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

Sorry that’s a very toxic way of thinking, science is wrong deal with it sweetie.


SalimSadoune

are you for real ? I'm starting to think you are trolling. do you even know what toxic means ? the only toxic person in the comments is you , because you simply insult everyone who has a different opinion than you, and choose not to listen or use the slightest bit of sense. nice troll


eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

It’s really taken someone this long to spot the fact I’m not serious do I nee /s for everything?


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eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

Sorry sweetie the patriarchy has destroyed the scientific community making you think that is true


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eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

If complete isolation would hurt you in any way you are toxic


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eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

Sorry you’re thinking too hard about it that’s toxic


GermanPITA2

No the sex wouldnt bother me but not loving someone or finding someone who loves me would kill me


eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoso

Yikes 😬 toxic attitude you got there


GermanPITA2

What?


Callmemuddled

To be honest I'm very much satisfied without having sex


Busy-Gap7725

Considering I've had years-long dry spells, I'd survive.