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nunkyfun

There are differences between sexual attraction and romantic attraction, and the way it's described in that post, the boy has some serious romantic attraction. Whether or not that could or should ever translate into sexual attraction through the help of a sex therapist I have no idea, and the relationship doesn't sound healthy for either of them, but it also sounds like it's causing a lot of pain for them both. Feeling that kind of romantic attraction towards a girl might not be at all normal for a gay man, but regardless I still feel a hell a lot of sympathy for both the girl and boy involved


gayway123

> the boy has some serious romantic attraction. gay men have no romantic attraction to women. he's quite clearly struggling with his sexuality > Whether or not that could or should ever translate into sexual attraction through the help of a sex therapist I have no idea you do realize that would literally be gay conversion therapy? a sex therapist "translating" a gay mans romantic attraction to a woman(that doesn't actually exist) into sexual attraction, that would be converting a gay man out of homosexuality obviously a sex therapist could not make a gay man sexually attracted to women you absolute nutcase


nunkyfun

Or maybe he's not 100% gay, if he confessed his romantic attraction to a girl? Clearly he's confused and telling him that he can only be attracted to guys because he previously identified as gay and isn't allowed any space to reflect and grow and potentially change his orientation based on how he feels is going to help him? I don't know what a sex therapist does but I've heard a lot of good things about sex therapy and even known someone who was a sex therapist, from experience they are just about the most sex positive people going. And if a sex therapist tries anything even close to gay conversion then they should be immediately shut down. Any seriously licensed sex therapist within a country that has laws again gay conversion should not be subject to suspicion that they're going to change someone's orientation.


gayway123

> maybe he's not 100% gay he obviously is. they tried having sex, and guess what, it didn't work cause he's gay > potentially change his orientation change his sexual orientation? gay conversion doesn't exist. there's no such thing as gays changing their sexual orientation > is going to help him? yes. getting the gay man to accept the fact he is gay and to stop trying to force himself into a relationship with a woman will 100% help him. > if a sex therapist tries anything even close to gay conversion then they should be immediately shut down the persons comment talked about them seeing a sex therapist to get the gay guy to be able to have sexual intimacy with the woman. guess what, that is gay conversion therapy. he is not attracted to women. he never will be > should not be subject to suspicion that they're going to change someone's orientation. if a sex therapist done what that comment was talking about them the therapist would be engaging in gay conversion and trying to make a gay man attracted to women so he could fuck her


nunkyfun

Okay, clearly we disagree about the post/what could or could not be going on there, and neither of us honestly have any real clue as to the reality of the situation based on one reddit post. Human sexuality is incredibly complicated and difficult and (trust me) can take someone years and years to properly figure out for themselves. My advice would be to try to not get so emotionally worked up over someone else's situation, and just hope that they manage to navigate what must be a very confusing time as best as they can.


gayway123

> the boy has some serious romantic attraction he absolutely does not. he has some serious hang ups about his gayness


OhDuvv

It's all fucked up. The woman OP trying to win the love of the gay man, the gay man for entertaining it and stringing her along and the weird alt left response she's gotten. I hate how some guys take gender equality to a weird perversion where they think male and female are the same. Men and women can have whatever jobs and personalities they like regardless of what society expects of them, but at the end of the day a dick is a dick and a gay man can't make himself attracted to a vagina.


gayway123

> and the weird alt left response she's gotten what do you think this kind of shit is? my reading of it is that it's essentially, for lack of a better term, "woke" homophobia. they basically have this idea that all the shit they're saying is so open minded and progressive on sexuality issues to the point where it's basically done a 180 and they're just spewing old homophobic nonsense with a new "isn't it all so open minded" coat of paint on it like seriously wtf? this is on a gay sub and people are talking about the gay guy getting involved with and about trying to make it work as if that's something that a gay man should ever do. that is totally fucked in the head


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gayway123

these people are talking about notion of a gay man getting involved in a romantic and sexual relationship with a woman as if that has any possibility of being healthy or functional. and they are users of gay subs. wtf?


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gayway123

> Because deep down they want to believe that they can turn straight that's what bothers me so much about all these people in the lgbt community saying all this shit about bi/heteroromantic gays, sexual orientation being fluid and being able to change lots of young gay people struggling with their sexuality and to accept themselves will see this kind of stuff and it will further delay their self acceptance cause this stuff just fuels the attempts to not be gay and tons of the sexuality is fluid people promote this narrative of the possibility that gays may one day randomly become attracted to the opposite sex. so it creates this idea of no one actually being able to just be gay, cause there is always that nonsense hanging over it of "maybe one day you'll like women". it's literally the "just haven't met the right woman" shit but rebranded under the banner of sexual fluidity. it's horrible


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gayway123

yeah exactly. how the fuck is homophobic nutcase garbage like that so prevalent on gay subs?