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Organic-Pair841

Honestly let it go. You’re only going to hurt yourself and be stuck in this terrible cycle. Cut it now while you can. Wishing you luck in whatever you do!!


BruceShark88

Its possible for someone to forgive anything. You can certainly forgive him! And also leave him :)


Callmemuddled

Have some self-respect and find yourself someone who respects and loves you the way you deserve it. This guy very clearly doesn't love you and there's no point in staying with him. I'm not sure if it's possible for you to forgive him those things but I can tell you I and a lot of other people wouldn't do it.


Lemonysunshine150

You can tell him how you feel. The issues you brought up are valid. The only way to forgive him is if he wants to change any of this. After you tell him, I would see if he changes any behavior. If not, then it's time to move on.


TheRedditGirl15

Sounds like she's told him plenty of times but he didnt wanna hear it


Lemonysunshine150

It does seem that way,


whatheckgoingon

You’re soooo young. Leave him and meet new people who will give you more perspective.


Aromataser

Forgiveness is something you do *after* the person apologizes and *after* the person changes their behavior. Has he said sorry for anything? One thing stands out to me: "anything I say is disregarded". One person doing the work can't fix the relationship. Take a weekend away from him and write down what you want in a guy, and what you have in him. I promise you that there is someone out there who will respect you.


Greg85374

Bigger question is why you would fight for him? Is your self esteem or sense of self worth so low you feel you deserve him? If you want to resolve things this can only be done thorough communication. Sit him down, tell him you ARE leaving. He isnt a good roommate much less a good partner. Say this through examples dont say it about him directly. If it doesnt work, he doesnt care and neither should you. Stop trying to be nice..speak in a matter of fact type of tone.


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Shelbelle4

You’re the only one who can decide what you’re willing to put up with.


Formal_Aerie_5486

Girl leave. It’s too much of a headache from what you’ve said.


ProtagonistAnonymous

Honestly, the first bullet point alone is enough reason to go.


TheRedditGirl15

Break up with him. He sounds completely awful. Have some self respect, you deserve way better


kgalyon

I am so sorry you're going through this! My (21F) ex boyfriend (23M) was the exact same way. Everything you listed is everything he did. We did a year and a half of couples therapy, and nothing really changed. Two weeks after our six year anniversary, I found out he messaged one of the girls he cheated on me with, and he confessed that he was never actually in love with me. To make a long story short, he doesn't see you as a girlfriend. He knows you'd make a good wife, mother, partner, etc, but he isn't really in love with you. I promise after the initial, soul crushing couple of weeks that follow the breakup, you'll be shocked at what the world has to offer.


Prestigious-Corgi-66

By all means forgive him first, but then leave, there are better people out there.